Another day and another Quote of the Day. This concept lead me down a mental rabbit hole of sorts. My mind connected this quote to others that I have heard my whole life, “Honesty is the best policy.”, and “Actions speak louder than words.” I think back to a talk I had with my nephew a couple weeks ago. He has learned that when he has done something he shouldn’t he needs to say he is sorry. But we had a talk about meaning it. He was pretty confused and I don’t blame him. See, just spitting out the words so you can go on with things isn’t the intent of the practice of apologizing. If there is no heart to those words then the words are hollow. It lead me to an uncomfortable realization. I am all too often a liar. There are so many instances in a day where I am asked a question and without a moment’s thought I have a standard answer to give. I haven’t spent time to contemplate the answer. I spit out the words and move on. I bet I’m not alone. We don’t do it to hurt people or with any sort of malicious intent but it is still a lie. It lead me in a round about way to the idea of being mindful. Trying to be more mindful isn’t just about being aware of my feelings or what I am putting in my mouth. It is a state of mind. It asks me to slow down, to stop and think not just before eating but in how I interact with others and not just how I see things inside my own head. It asks me to give thoughtful response to questions. It leads me to be a better listener because I’m not just spouting my answer and moving on but I am more able to hear someone else’s answer to an interaction. It helps me be more honest not just with others but with myself. Instead of just telling someone I am happy to help and then grumbling under my breath and rolling my eyes when they later ask for my help. I give my words consideration and mean them so I find myself less inconvenienced later on if they ask for my help. Why? Because I meant my answer and I thought about it before uttering the words and then wishing I hadn’t. It isn’t easy and I am nowhere near as good about it as I want to be. But yet again, my favorite little humans and teaching me lessons about life and I am grateful, truly, for their influence on my life. Have a blessed day, y’all! Stay safe, stay cool and enjoy another beautiful day.
